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Yahoo
2 days ago
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Woman Upset After Mom Secretly Makes Changes to Apartment While She's Away on Vacation
She asked her mom to only wash the curtains, but returned to find multiple unapproved changes NEED TO KNOW A woman's mother promised to only wash the curtains while she was away, but made several other changes without asking The family repainted, moved furniture, and attempted repairs the woman had planned to do later She asked Reddit if she was wrong to feel hurt over what she sees as a breach of trust A young woman seeks support from the Reddit community following an emotional dispute with her family over home renovations done without her permission. In her post, the 25-year-old explains that she and her fiancé live in an apartment owned by her mother, and while it has 'its problems,' they love it and consider it in 'good condition.' Shortly after moving in, they went on a family vacation with her fiancé's parents, and her mother entered their home and cleaned it without telling them. 'We felt very uncomfortable,' she writes, adding that it felt like 'a breach of privacy' and that it made her feel her efforts to make the space theirs were 'not enough.' The young woman says she spoke to her mother after that incident, expressing gratitude but also setting a clear boundary. 'I told my mum that while we were thankful for the help, please don't do it again because we are not comfortable.' This year, she says, there seemed to be progress in respecting her boundaries when her mother approached her before their trip. 'My mum asked me if she can wash our curtains while we are away… since I need help with that anyway I said yes and decided to trust her.' However, when they returned from vacation, it became clear that more had been done than they had agreed on. 'It was obvious more things changed than what we know about,' she writes, describing duct tape covering damaged furniture, a ripped rug, and rearranged belongings. She points out that the bathroom cabinet seemed to have been broken off from one of the places it was attached to the wall. There was also a fresh paint job on the bathroom ceiling and toilet wall, which concerned her because she knew 'a simple paintjob won't fix it' given the existing issues from a previous renovation. The young woman stresses that she understands her family wanted to help, but says these were repairs she had intentionally delayed. 'I would rather wait for a good job that needs to be done once than fix it over and over again,' she explains, noting that her fiancé's father had done 'an amazing job in the kitchen' and she was willing to be patient for similar quality. When she asked her mother why these changes were made without discussion, the conversation turned tense. 'They could tell we were upset but they did not know that my silence and short answers was because I was trying not to cry,' she shares. She insists she was not trying to be ungrateful but was looking for understanding. 'It is not about the help but the trust… their trust in me to being able to do things, to be on their level,' she says. Instead, she says her mother and grandmother seemed to take her question as a personal attack. 'They basically sent me away, clearly thinking that my fiancé was turning me against them,' she writes. The emotional core of her frustration lies in feeling excluded from decisions about her own living space. 'Them not including us,' she says simply, capturing the heart of the dispute before asking if she was in the wrong. In the thread, one commenter asked if she has a written agreement about living in her mother's flat or if she pays rent. They pointed out that without such an agreement, her mother 'has every right to feel concerned about the loss of value' during the time she lives there, while also noting it's 'not ok that she doesn't communicate openly about it.' In response, the young woman revealed that they only have a spoken agreement. 'We wanted to pay rent but they said it was for us… if we ever wanted to have our own place,' she explains, adding that the only condition was to pay the bills, which she and her fiancé split between them. She also says that repairs have been done in the past with family involvement. 'We did repairs in the past together,' she notes, which makes the recent lack of communication even more hurtful. While she acknowledges her family's intentions, she feels that decisions about her home should involve her. Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
CBC
17-05-2025
- CBC
Edmonton police officer who used job to pursue women gets 6 months in jail
An Edmonton police officer, who used his position to pursue sexual relationships with vulnerable women he met on duty, has been sentenced to six months behind bars. Const. Hunter Robinz, 39, pleaded guilty last year to breach of trust, admitting that he made sexual advances toward eight different women from 2017 to 2019. The women's names are covered by a publication ban. The women all needed police help: calling to report a break-in, seeking help for a suicidal family member or getting assistance for a domestic violence situation, among other issues. Robinz subsequently sought them out after meeting them on the job and sent unsolicited, inappropriate messages. In the final incident that ultimately prompted the Alberta Serious Incident Response Team (ASIRT), the province's police watchdog, to investigate Robinz's conduct, the officer returned to the home of a woman he'd helped earlier that day, when he and his EPS partner found her intoxicated and distressed in a public park. Robinz used the woman's key to let himself inside the house and aggressively pursued her, kissing her several times while she repeatedly asked him to leave. Calling Robinz's conduct "predatory," Court of King's Bench Justice Susan Bercov said Friday that a jail term is necessary to denounce his actions. "A strong message must be sent, that these types of abuses of authority will not be tolerated and that there will be significant consequences for those who engage in this behaviour," she said. Police officers rarely get jail time after a criminal case. ASIRT's public statistics on police charges lists just two other instances since 2009: an RCMP officer who was convicted in a theft and fraud case, and a Calgary police officer found guilty of assault in a violent 2016 arrest. Robinz's defence lawyer, Allan Fay, argued for a period of house arrest instead of time behind bars, which Bercov ultimately rejected. Her sentence additionally imposes a two-year probation period. The judge spoke about how, in this case, the women's victim impact statements illustrate the damage of reaching out for help, only to be victimized again by someone in authority. "I am satisfied Mr. Robinz's actions have caused significant, serious and widespread damage. Not only to the women, but to the community as well," Bercov said. "I applaud the courage of the women who came forward to report the offences, who were willing to testify and who provided victim impact statements. Their courageous actions prevented other women from being victimized." Crown prosecutor John Schmidt also credited the women who reported the misconduct for Friday's outcome. "More than anything, what we would like to express is our sincere thanks and appreciation for the eight women who came forward — who had the courage that it takes to speak out something like this," he said. Officer acknowledges 'unacceptable' behaviour Robinz has been suspended without pay from EPS since the end of 2021, when he was charged with sexual assault, unauthorized use of a computer database and two counts of breach of trust. After his guilty plea to one count of breach of trust, the Crown withdrew the other charges. A police disciplinary investigation follows the end of criminal proceedings, according to an EPS spokesperson. Robinz's defence lawyer previously told the court that, regardless of the ultimate sentencing outcome, there's "little doubt" his client will never work as a police officer again. Robinz apologized in court on Friday. "I am sorry for my behaviour. I'm sorry to my family, my friends and obviously the complainants for the pain I caused them. It was unacceptable. I was in a crisis and I didn't know," he said. The court heard Robinz has been diagnosed with PTSD and alcohol use disorder, which is connected to his past military service in Afghanistan. In Bercov's decision, she accepted that those mental health issues likely played a part in some of his conduct. In addition to Robinz's guilty plea, it's one of the mitigating factors in his sentence.
